And for me personally, most of those rejections arrive by way of email. So I have come to appreciate emails that don't contain rejections. It's rather interesting; while spam used to annoy the hell out of me, during the querying process I would open my inbox, see the junk mail, and breathe an enormous sigh of relief. It can be a sales pitch, or an advertisement, or one of those fake ZOMG YOU'VE BEEN SELECTED TO WIN A GAJILLION DOLLARS emails. Hell, it can be a freaking virus as long as it's not a rejection.
I write this post in a rather lame attempt to find something positive about being rejected over and over. I'm more confidant and outgoing than many writers, but still, constant rejection is a blow to the self-esteem, especially because writers tend to overanalyze the responses of agents/editors:
Dear Ms. Coursey,
You are a very talented writer and I thank you for the opportunity to consider MY BOYFRIEND IS A CRAZY STALKER NOOOOOOOOO. While the manuscript shows promise, it isn't right for my list at this time. I have no doubt you will find an agent to represent this.
What I read:
Dear Ms. Coursey,
I'm supposed to say all these nice things because I don't want to piss you off and provoke a call/email response/visit to our office, but I cannot lie anymore: you suck. Your writing sucks, your characters suck, your plot sucks, and that dress you're wearing is ugly as hell. Go back to being a normal high school student and stop invading our perfect literary bubble with your pulpy prose.
It's not that writers can't read (haha, that would be unfortunate). But our minds twist a rejection into something it's not. We twist it into a commentary on ourselves, our abilities, and our potential futures as authors.
So what's the one good part about getting a rejection? You learn to appreciate the non-rejections. I swear, nobody but a writer could ever get excited about an email selling toilet cleanser, or high-powered vacuum cleaners, or penis enlargement pills (seriously, am I the only person who gets about a million of these?). Today, I invite you all to celebrate the non-rejections. Let's be grateful for those glorious emails that do not even mention the word "pass".